Listen Up Brother, You Are Man Enough!

I am not a big Steve Harvey fan, well of his comedy anyway, but I admire his dedication to being an example of a Black man, the kind that other Black men should be replicating.   Whether you are a fan or not, if you have any concern about the plight of our young Black boys and men, then you must admit that he is one of the most vociferous when it comes to getting the word out.   Steve, as I like to call him, was never really on my radar until I started to actually listen to him when he talks about manhood, his or anyone else’s.  It first started when I heard him mention his annual event, Steve Harvey Mentoring Weekend for Young Men, where he invite 100 Black boys to spend some time with him down in Texas,  to learn how to become emotionally, politically and economically stronger.  I instantly thought, “Wow! if I were a man, this is exactly what I would do!”  And regardless of what you think of him, or what you think a role model for young Black men should look like, no one is doing this, NO ONE! 

Well, just a few days ago I just happened to catch the last few minutes of his radio show here in NYC and I heard him implore each and every Black man to take just one Black boy under his wing, to show him what being a man is about.  Not a church leader, or a school teacher, or lawyer, or doctor, just a Black man!  His thinking is this:  for every Black boy out there that  has no clue, no knowledge of how to tie a tie, or how to dress for an interview, or merely how to change a tire, any man regardless of what he does for a living or how well he does at least have some insight on how to do these things.   Many times, many Black men think they are not good enough, not good enough to be the provider, not good enough to be the leader, not good enough to teach a young boy anything about life.  These limitations are not random, they become a sort of “learned thinking”  the result of racism, violence and emasculation….very little to do with the actual lack of ability or skill.  This ‘self-fulfilling prophecy’ only stifles Black men which in turn stumps the growth of those young Black men around them.  This needs to be exorcised, each and every man has experiences, if nothing else, that can help a Black boy in his own journey to manhood.

I persistently beseech Black men to do something, no matter how big or small, to guide a Black boy or young man in their journey to becoming.  I routinely remind the men that I know, that they have one up or me and every other Black woman, that is that they know what it is like to be a Black man.  I always talk to young boys and young men about my travels, mainly professional, and the things I experience along the way.  I do this as a means to encourage, uplift and inspire them to want to do good.  But at the end of the day, I know that how they relate to me is limited by the difference in our biological makeup, I can never be nor will ever experience things the way the do.  I think that they hold the key to reclaiming the Black family, which restores the Black community! So we should all be a Steve Harvey, or a Stephanie Harvey, and incite every Black man to do more.

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  1. Stoney Roberts Said:

    Why should Black men do more? Black Women wanted the “It Takes A Village” without mentioning that none of the men in the Village have any Rights to their OWN CHILDREN in the biased Family Courts of America and Black Women wanted it that way and never complained at all. This has been going on the last 45 yrs with Black Women holding our children hostage making use of the 90 perc Sole Mother Custody Bias of the Family Courts, so they were apparently fine with subjugation.

    Why, as a black man, should I repay that betrayal on the part of Black Mothers with helping to raise their young men?

    When Black Fathers get \our aotomatic Rights to our children again, I’ll consider it. Til then, it’s Black Women’s responsibilty since it was THEIR CRIME.

    Appeals to sympathy won’t work and haven’t. This ain’t new.

    We BLACK FATHERS WANT OUR RIGHTS TO OUR CHILDREN ENFORCED first.
    Till that time…
    NO COMPROMISE WITH THE ENEMY!

    Them ya’ll kids. That’s what black women marched for and that’s what you have.

    • tabloodaw Said:

      Because until you do, we will create more angry Black men and women which does nothing to move us forward. I don’t deny what you are saying but this approach of yours is certainly unproductive and only hurt future generations. Women have a role and responsibilities too.


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